Help! I Miss My Ex!
If you have broken up with your ex, but you think that the two of you belong together, you’re probably wondering if there’s anything you can do in order to get your ex back fast. While it can be challenging, especially if your ex left because of something that you did, it is possible to win them back and continue with a stronger relationship than you had before. Of course, it’s important to think about why the two of you broke up. Was it you that asked for the split or was it your ex? If it was you, then you’ll need to spend some time thinking about how you can explain that you’ve had a change of heart. If it was your ex that wanted to call it quits, understanding why they made that decision will help guide you in how best to get your ex back.
For example, if you called off the relationship, was it because you thought your ex was not showing you the attention and affection that you need? If this is the case, it’s a good idea to think about what you need, as well as how best your ex could fulfill your needs while getting theirs met at the same time. Just because the two of you are different, certainly doesn’t mean that one of you has to give up everything for the other. There’s a compromise somewhere in there, and both of you can be happy. Before you approach your ex, make sure you have a solid idea of how the two of you could come to an agreement. Many times, the other party simply doesn’t realize that there’s something missing for you. Don’t be afraid to let them know what’s really in your heart. If you want to hear “I love you” more often or if you like it when your ex does little things for you, make sure that you share that. But, most importantly, make sure that you communicate to your ex that you’re committed to making changes and ensuring that your relationship will be the best that it can be.
If it was your ex who called off the relationship, it might be a little trickier to get them back, but it’s certainly not impossible. If there was another person involved, then you need to find out if they are still seeing that other person. If they are, you’re going to have to be very careful about how you approach your ex. Never try to criticize their current partner. What you should do instead is to simply show your ex how wonderful being back together with you could be. Remember, if it was an affair that caused the split, it’s not always about the physical intimacy. In fact, an affair is usually about how your ex felt when they were with the other person. Just like your ex was led astray with their current love interest, you can help boost their ego and feel great about themselves. Who doesn’t want to be around someone who makes you feel like you’re important?
When you make contact with your ex, don’t cry or be whiny, that’s not very attractive, and it certainly won’t help you get your ex back. Try to be strong, confident, and sure of yourself. Let your ex know that you’ve given your relationship a great deal of thought and that you want to see if it’s possible for the two of you to try over again. You might just get a straight up YES without doing anything else. However, be prepared, you might also get a solid NO. They might not be ready to think about another relationship with you. That’s okay; at least for now. If you get a no, accept it graciously. Tell them how much you want the best for them and that you understand their position. This will help show your ex that you’re not only mature, but you’re also willing to hear what they say and accept their wishes.
Of course, that doesn’t mean you have to give up. Wait a few days and call or text them again. Find a good reason to reach out, such as wishing them a happy birthday, let them know you’re thinking about them if there’s something going on in their life, or simply just call to say Hi. The point is to make a brief contact. Keep it light and friendly. With repeated positive contact, your ex will begin to see you in that same positive light that they had when your relationship first began. It might take a little time, but with persistence, and the right attitude, your ex will be back with you, and you’ll both be happier than ever.